Marriage Is A Hard Work
Your interest in a marriage will either spell its doom or success. A woman once told me that she married her husband out of love even though he wasn’t rich but with time, her patience, hard work and G-d-fearing attitude yielded every good thing you can dream of in a successful marriage.
Nagging in marriage:
You see, if a married lady keeps on nagging in the house, she pushes the spirit of her husband from the home. If you make the man unhappy, you make the house uncomfortable.
When it becomes your attitude to only please your wife or husband always, the other person responds naturally.
In fact, “if nothing touches the palm tree, it doesn’t rattle” –Igbo proverb. After all, you knew very well the status of your family and decided to marry that man or woman, so don’t expect your wife or husband to treat you like your mother.
Love in a marriage:
LOVE only compels lovers into marriage but it doesn’t sustain marriage. Rather, unconditional love, understanding, patience, communication, humility and most importantly, forgiveness sustain every marriage.
Expectations in marriage
High expectations and disrespect are the symptoms of divorce in marriages. Sometimes you hear, I want to marry a walking-class lady, a business partner, God fearing person, a cook, a laundry machine, a woman who is not a financial liability, etc. You cannot get all your expectations in one person. So minimize your expectations in your marriage.
These are mistakes a couple should stand against at all costs in marriage:
1. Never say you have made your wife or husband somebody from a nobody. It hurts!
- Let the man be head of the home no matter the financial, economic, physical and emotional health situation and the woman should exercises diligence in the use of the tongue but a man must respect his wife.
- I have never understood why men mostly think they are more important in a relationship. Everyone is important and must face the marriage to make it a success.
Marriage is not for small minded individuals who struggle to forgive, demand everything speedily, are rigid, fixed and immovable, believe they know it all and lack patience. Marriage is the relationship between two mature individuals.
Make every effort to let your marriage work and feel free to contact us for free marriage counseling. We are here for YOU!